What is Attraction?
The feeling of evoking interest and liking in someone. The word attraction is very different from love, attraction is first stage of love or seduction. It means grabbing someone’s attention and making yourself shine in front of a crowd. It could be natural, but it can also be intentional. Here, I want to teach you tricks for attracting someone.
You have no idea how powerful and irresistible your aura could be if you only worked on it. A person who attracts someone is called a charmer or charismatic.
One myth that I want to burst at the beginning is that it doesn’t only depend on your visual. Yes, visuals are part of the attraction process, but they are only a factor, not a whole meal. You must have noticed that someone is stunning, and the minute you talk to him, your crust disappears because he doesn’t know how to seduce or have a conversation in the first place.
I had an online crush on an Instagram person; he was like a real-life anime character, but he always made reels, lip-syncing to different songs. Once I got a chance to join his live video, when he started to talk, my attraction disappeared, and I was shocked for a moment. He didn’t really know how to have a conversation.
What is Law if Attraction and How Does it Work?
20 percent of life is destiny, and the other 80 percent is how we react to that 20 percent, also called destiny creation.
In physics, the law of attraction means that things with the same frequency attract each other.
Every object, stationary or moving, has frequency in this universe. You usually attract the object with the same frequency. You need to change your vibrational frequency to match your desired frequency.
How can we change our frequency, and what makes our frequency? The human frequency consists of four components. Feelings, thoughts, beliefs, and emotions.
You need to alling your feelings, thoughts, beliefs, and emotions to such a frequency that they attract similar events in your life.
Manifestation and the law of attraction are not about sitting and just visualizing. You need to correct your action according to your goal. Most people miss the part about action because it is the difficult one and something you need to toil for.
It can apply to attracting the person you want; first, you need to have confidence that you can, and then work on it to match your frequency.
You need to do some changes in your personality in order to attract someone, become a seducer. They are many types of seducer and everybody is a seducer you could be at least one of them.
” We have of seeing love and romance as some kind of sacred, magical realm where things just fall into place,if they meant to. This might seem romantic and quaint, but it is really just a cover for our laziness. What will seduce a person is the effort we expand on their behalf, showing how much we care, how much they are worth.”
A passage from Robert Greene’s book The art of seduction.
Types of Seducer
To attract some one you need to acquire the strategy of a seducer. These are the types, find out which one is yours.
- The Siren
- The Rake
- The Ideal Lover
- The Dandy
- The Natural
- The Coquette
- The Charmer
- The Charismatic
- The Star
How to attract someone?
1. Make your Target your centre of attention.
“Talk to someone about themselves and they will listen for hours”.
Benjamin Disraeli.
It is very simple method to attract someone, make your victim center of your universe, everyone wants to be admired, to be listened , to be understood. Play with your victim’s insecurities, they them at ease in your presence, they will get a false notion that your in love with him, even if you are not.
You will a lot of valuable information about somebody, that could be used for your benefit. This tricks especially works on women, they love to talk about random things, some just don’t make sense. They are like a drunk driver on talking highway.
But be careful; women can decide whether someone is paying attention to them or not. They are much more intuitive. The key is to listen for the purpose of listening; don’t suggest solutions to their problems; and try to calm them with your kind words.
Men, on the other hand, are task-oriented and logical creatures; they talk when there is a purpose, they don’t gossip like women. It could be arduous to open up to men and make them pour their hearts in front of you. First, you need to charm them; once they release their armor and all the guards, you can have what you want.
2. Be Eloquent.
Your charisma can be seen in the words of many people who are visually appealing, controversial, or eccentric, but we still listen to them. The secret is their magical words.
Attracting someone through the power of words is the most common way. It is the quickest way. Many motivational speakers and poets have many people going crazy over them; they allure through words. They understand the power of words and charm their audience. That’s why lovers dedicate poetry to each other, make vows, and talk about the extraterrestrial world to attract them.
Flattery is the clever use of words to exaggerate someone’s skill, not sarcastically but to attract them. Flattery is the most powerful tool, but you need to be careful not to sound diplomatic and hypocritical.
Talk to the person you want to attract with confidence and eloquence; write a piece of poetry for them.
Humor is also a magic of words that can attract the masses. People with a great sense of humor are charismatic and charming. Others live in their company because laughter releases stress and increases serotonin and endorphins(chemicals in our body that reduce pain).
Your humor can make you a popular charmer, hence the attraction in your personality. When you are attracted, you are more likely to attract the person you like. This leads to my neat point.
3. Work on yourself.
You may not know, but self-awareness is the most attractive quality. Being confident about your abilities and displaying them in front of everyone is part of self-awareness. What’s the purpose of your gift if you can’t use it in a fruitful way if you lead it to waste? To me, that is utter ungratefulness.
Everyone has some qualities; we need to learn to cash in on them properly. No one wants to be around a person who is lost, depressed, unattractive, and an anti-seducer.
Embrace the path of self-discovery.
To enhance your capabilities. You could be a champion in your life; when you are at the top of the hierarchy, people generally want to befriend you. No one would reject the proposal of a handsome young billionaire!
4. Create a sense of mystery.
Mystery lies in charisma’s heart. Create a sense of mystery around yourself. Don’t reveal all about you to anyone, and don’t give all of you to anyone. Let them come for more when you give them pieces.
I have already told you that your topic of conversation should be your target, not you. Make your target excited about your personality and your past. No one likes predictability in anyone. A couple fell out of love after years of marriage because there was no element of mystery in the other person. Both know all about each other, and it is not an attractive thing.
Knowing all about your partner can kill your passion and interest. You will see your partner like another person. This trick will help you to present yourself to the person of your interest and to not let their interest in you vanish.
5. Be bold and adventurous.
People are more attractive than unconventional. Have an air of adventure and be passionate. Kill the boredom of your target, show them new things, and stir their fantasy.
“People don’t want to be brave, but to follow the brave.”
J.k psyche
People are two-faced; they may criticize and look down upon the unconventional and bold, but in their hearts, they are envious because they can’t be like them.
Adventure suggests freedom, and everyone is bound by social norms. They want to break free and practice their free will, which is the most advantageous advantage.
Marilyn Monroe, Napoleon, Cleopatra, Elvis Presley, etc. were all unconventional in their ways, and people were awestruck when they looked at them. Marilyn Monroe dressed like a goddess, quite bold according to her time, but it attracts people; they admire her immensely. In the eighteenth century, women used to wear exquisite gowns in balls to attract the attention of men. Their gowns often resembles the Greek and Egyptian goodesses.
Be careful, don’t sound like an attention seeker, and cross the boundaries of vulgarity. There is a difference between vulgarity and unconventionality.
6. Have a Strong Sense of Purpose.
I remember once seeing a public speaker who presented himself as a religious scholar. His delivery of speech and purposefulness make him magnetism; I would mention his name, but the way he believes in his mission and his faith and defends them courageously, I was quickly impressed and began to follow his content. This happens not only with me but with others too. He catapulted swiftly among other public speakers and gained recognition among the most-followed speakers.
He wasn’t handsome, and I was not a religious person back then. But his single-mindedness towards his belief and the way he showcased it openly have impressed me a lot.
That is charisma; he presented himself as a savior to youth with a clear purpose, and people began to follow him blindly.
You have no idea that your passion and ambition can be so attractive to other people. Whenever you talk to someone, you want to tell them about your goals, aims, and dreams. Your purpose should shine in your eyes. Don’t be that person who doesn’t have any clues in their life.
Josephine Bonaparte was six years older than Napoleon. When she met him, he wasn’t yet the emperor of France, but she saw passion in his eyes and a clear purpose to achieve something extraordinary, so when Napoleon proposed to her, she accepted it.
If your lover has the same purpose as yours and you make him believe in your plan, that is even more seductive and charming. If you can’t do it, at least appear lost and demotivated in front of him.
7. Be an ideal lover.
Prove your love to your dear ones. Be a savior and useful to them. If they need someone, be the first one to offer yourself. You have to make some sacrifices to prove your love; it is an important part of wooing someone.
Don’t just talk the talk; walk the walk. The ideal lover stands in front of their balcony all night just to see them, and that is heartwarming.
Help your lover through ups and downs, support and protect them when everyone is against them, and most importantly, make sacrifices for them. You can’t have the person you love without paying the price.
Take the classic tale of love and sacrifice, the story of Laila and Manju. When Laila heard that Majnu was wandering into the desert in her love, she became a hermit. She resisted against her father and society; this courage comes from the love that Majnu shows for her.
If you prove yourself, you would do more than just attract the person; it would seduce them because everyone wants to be admired and loved, and it would boost their self-esteem and ego. Don’t think too much; you will look foolish and become a laughing stock. This will show that you are willing to go against people to have the person you want. And it will pay off now or later; your efforts will pay off because now a days people don’t put much effort into their relationships. It is a mistake and the most anti-seductive act.
” Upon altar of tomorrow, Sacrifices lay,
Dreams and desire, we Quietly Slay.
For the love of those we hold so dear,
We offer up our hope without fear.”
The Altar of Love.
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